Talking to children about death is never easy,
but it’s also one of the most important ways we can support them through loss.
At Hospicare, we understand how deeply the illness or death of a loved one can affect a child. Whether your child is facing the loss of a parent, grandparent, sibling, or close friend, our care team is here to walk alongside you, offering support, resources, and guidance every step of the way.
Why It’s Important to Talk Honestly
Children of all ages sense when something is wrong. They may overhear conversations, notice changes in routines, or feel the emotional stress of the adults around them. When children aren’t given clear and age-appropriate information, their imaginations often fill in the blanks—with confusion, guilt, or fear.
Talking openly and compassionately about death gives children:
- A clearer understanding of what’s happening
- Language to express their own feelings
- Permission to grieve in their own way
- Reassurance that they are safe and not to blame
How Hospicare Can Help
Our hospice team—including social workers, spiritual care providers, and bereavement counselors—can help you find the right words, choose the right moment, and offer emotional support for both you and your child.
We also provide grief resources specifically designed for children and teens, and we can recommend books or activities that help them explore their feelings in healthy, age-appropriate ways.
Books We Recommend
These books can be helpful tools for families navigating a serious illness or recent loss:
Hospicare has copies of these books available in our library for families to borrow.
For young children:
- Lifetimes by Bryan Mellonie and Robert Ingpen
- The Fall of Freddie the Leaf by Leo Buscaglia
- When Dinosaurs Die by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown
- Always Remember by CeCe Meng
- Tell Me, Papa by Dr. Marvin Johnson
For older children and teens:
- Chill & Spill: A Place to Put It Down and Work It Out by Steffanie Lorig
- Straight Talk About Death for Teenagers by Earl A. Grollman